Seems like every day we have them. Emotions. We react emotionally to the personal interactions and circumstances that we move through each day. Some emotions we like: joy, happiness, gratitude, hope, inspiration, pride, serenity, inspiration, and, of course, love. Want them. Want to keep them.
But it seems that much of the time we are swamped by emotions that we don’t like: anger, disappointment, frustration, annoyance, apathy, sadness, discouragement, despair, jealousy, fear, anxiety and guilt.
We spend quite a bit of time and money trying to figure out why we have these unwanted feelings, discovering the reasons they have erupted in us and devising how we can “overcome” them.
I have recently come to a new understanding about emotions and how they work for us and how we can work with them in a more effective way.
Emotions are a set of physical sensations in our BODY. If we work with the sensations in our body is a precise way, the emotions will be resolved permanently.
That’s it. That’s all of it.
It is our MIND mind that labels the physical sensations as anger, disgust, sadness, surprise, fear, trust, or joy, for example. And it is our mind that works out what our action/reaction should be. It’s all downhill, or up-hill from there. In many ways, it’s a distraction from the real work, especially when the reaction is “over the top/beyond what is appropriate”.
It all starts with the physical sensations in our Body.
Our Body is innately equipped with the ability to regulate emotions. When have an we experience a set of physical sensations and if the emotion is not “blocked”, the “emotion” information is passed to the mind, followed by clear-minded, analysis of the situation and discerning action ensues. We won’t actually experience the emotion in this case.
But, when the emotion is blocked for whatever reason, the Mind “creates” a heightened experience and labels the feelings as “xxx” (an emotion.) Because the Mind is now flooded with overwhelming and sometimes conflicting cues, it’s normal mental flows are sidetracked from “appropriate action”. We then find ourselves in difficulties and behaviors that are over the top and, most commonly, don’t address anything that needs to be taken care of.
For example, if we are not afraid of heights, we could walk up to a handrail in the middle of a tall bridge and calmly recognize that we are safe when we look over the handrail and down to the river view below. There is no “emotional” reaction to the approach of the handrail or the view.
If we are afraid of heights, we may not even get to the middle of the bridge, much less the handrail. Our Mind is probably screaming in a fear and terror that paralyzes the body and reason. I’m sure you’d agree that this is definitely and emotional difficulty.
So the first question is: Do we really need to know how the emotion was blocked? do we care if the block came from a childhood trauma, a teenage wound or an extremely stressful event, such as wartime combat, a natural disaster, or sexual or physical abuse.
The answers to “where did they come from” may help us to be more compassionate with ourselves. But they don’t help us get rid of the emotion, the reaction to the triggering situation or our mismatched actions.
The second question: it is okay, and possible, to just get of the emotional response, without knowing where it originated, and get rid of it permanently?
Yes, it is absolutely possible to free ourselves from emotional difficulties whether we know where they came from or not.
Emotional Regulation is set of precise protocols developed by the TiPi organization (tipi.pro) to resolve emotions and their triggers that clouds our understanding of what is happening now, and filters our abilities to function and respond effectively to the present.
By consciously experiencing physical sensations in the Body, letting them change or shift, until they are gone, a natural and permanent regulation of the emotion takes place.
We can perform this action on ourselves in the moment the emotion is present in us (TiPi-Self), assist others to do this work in the moment (TiPi-Direct) or afterwards with the help of an Emotional Regulation Professional (TiPi-Deferred).
There are other advantages to Emotional Regulation. There is no re-triggering or re-living the trauma. We don’t have to know where it originated. There is no need to share personal details or difficult stories. We are completely safe, present and in control at all times during a session.
Emotional Regulation with Tipi sessions rarely need to exceed 30 minutes to obtain a complete and permanent resolution.
I have so many clients that are delighted with the sessions and results of their Emotional Regulation. I am also gratified, personally with my own work and professionally with the work of my clients.I invite you to give it a try, in-person in North Dallas, Tx or on-the-phone. Here is a link to schedule and appointment with me. http://regulatingsense.schedulista.com/